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Bad appetite at the healthy child is often caused by psychological features of the kid and an educational system in a family. So, if mum constantly insists, that the child ate, and the favourite child goes obstinate, any food intake turns to struggle between mum and the child. There is a steady stereotype of relations at which a table and meal kind cause in the child protective reaction: refusal and obstinacy.

In what can result violent feeding:

• At the child with soft, appeasable character the disturbing, latent fear which masks whims behind a table is formed;
• Sluggish, phlegmatic children eat slowly and it causes irritation in the feeding adult. Mum hurries the child, pushes the following spoon with meal to it in even full mouth and feeding process turns to torture both for the kid, and for mum. During any moment the uncooperative altitude of the child to meal overflows it and becomes an immediate cause of mental traumas;
• At children sensitive, impressionable negative emotions of violence, fear, obstinacy, insult contact surrounding conditions and certain meal and remain in subconsciousness. The at earlier age it has occurred, the more difficult in the subsequent to establish the reason of bad appetite. Even the feeling of hunger hardly wins subconscious fear which in the early childhood has been connected with certain meal or conditions.

Often there is, that a child who always badly ate houses, in a garden suddenly starts to eat well. Quite often children praise meal which prepare in a kindergarten. At times kids willingly eat on a visit everything, that to them offer. There are also other situations: in a garden eats nothing, and the house appetite good. It also is characteristic signs of neurotic reaction to meal.

It is necessary for parents to show understanding and huge patience if the child badly eats. After all on parents the big share of fault for infringements of a food of children lays.

To cope with psychological problems of bad appetite drawing, telling of fairy tales, conditions change will help:

• Suggest the child to draw a dinner in a family of bears (belochek, lisichek …) and to think up history about bear cubs who badly eat. It is important, that you have prompted to the child, as differently it is possible to behave behind a table how to take pleasure in meal for what it is necessary is high-grade to eat. Avoid "reading moralej", and compose history cheerful and with a happy-end.
• Play with the child in game "the Obstinate (whimsical) child behind a table", and on itself take a role of the child, and the kid let will be mum. Avoid such open phrases as "I will be capricious and vrednichat as you usually do behind a table". Game should be ridiculous, cheerful and is lost many times.
• Try to break a standard stereotype of sitting behind a table. Suggest the child to sit down to the place of the daddy and to eat as the daddy. Thus irrespective of, how many the child has eaten, praise the kid and say, that "the place magic and who on it sits always well eats". It is possible to invite the child to eat behind a coffee table in a drawing room - as though it prepares for flight in space and the special diet is necessary for it. Even if the child has not eaten all, another time it will sit down to eat before, to have time to "take off" on the spaceship in time. Connect only positive emotions with this place of food intake.

Your parental intuition and knowledge of features of the child and its hobbies will help to find other game variants.

Other problem is a full child. In any children's collective, in the street it is possible to meet thick well-fad children. Some of them mobile as a ball, elastic, playful, with an open face. Others, on the contrary, inactive, indifferent to all and unfriendly.

Quite often reason of completeness consists in absence of elementary culture of a food, that is in an overeating. It is promoted by parents, grandmothers, grandfathers who consider, that than more child has eaten, especially healthy it will grow. Also the use of high-calorific flour food - rolls, pies, cakes leads to a fast set of weight of a body, friability hypodermic kletchatki.

Psychological aspects of a problem of completeness:

• The full child can grow happy and successful if has easy character and loving parents;
• Often in children's collective of the full child start to tease. The kid feels unfortunate, lonely, not such as everything, it can become the derelict in group or a class. Such children sincerely suffer from the completeness. There is an uncertainty in, children's insults, a low self-estimation.
• Strengthen sufferings of the child a position of mum if it is disturbed by its appearance and cannot reconcile that it not such as she expected, wanted. Mum is subconsciously irritated, does not accept the child such what it is, constantly him reproaches, abuses in different occasions.
• Parents if they too regret the non-standard child can form a feebleness and uncertainty complex, sponsor it on trifles, carefully preserve against everything, that can cause problems and difficulties. In that case the child grows dependent, not ready by a life.

Parents should remember, that at different age children differently perceive the external data:

• At preschool age the self-perception of the child is formed of estimations of associates: "what small child" or "what thick child" bear phrases either positive, or a negative emotional estimation. The estimation of parents is especially important. Negative estimations cause in one children sensitivity, kapriznost, and at others - the internal protest which is expressed in bad behaviour, aggressions.
• At younger school age the child has many possibilities to compensate the external lack successes in study, goodwill and friendship with contemporaries, display of abilities and talents;
• The teenage age is time of revaluation of values, relations to another and to. At this age occurs "double-dealing fellows" in the relation to the completeness. Safe children till this period suddenly decide, that they are very thick (especially girls) and start to "struggle" actively with the completeness. Others start to be proud of "dimensions", actively go in for sports (usually boys).

Psychological problems of completeness dare independently if the child receives enough family heat, cares, supports of parents. It is very important, if parents learn the child to concern with humour insults and sneers, urge "not go in cycles" in insulting responses about a figure. Hypochondriac mums and daddies should remove at themselves alarm and irritation concerning appearance of the kid. With patience and care it is necessary to connect all possible methods of the help: diets, physical culture. It is necessary to concern it as to difficulty from which it is possible to consult.

Timely medical support and treatment if it is necessary, correct and competent education taking into account physical and psychological features of the child will provide to it harmonious relations with itself and with associates, will allow to be successful in activity and happy in a life.